Designed to nurture the human in all of us, who is capable of healthy bonding, slow love gives people the time and space for partners to explore deeper connections.
(Although, that was more of a well-researched impulsion.) Basically, when I want something, I go for it.This is very different from biological determinism. Slow love supports a wide range of sexual behaviors and orientations for each gender. When it came to dating, I was always someone who preferred to jump two feet in before testing the water.
I figured that if I liked someone, it must be a good idea to see him seven nights a week, right? Often having what should have been a year-long relationship—meeting, the honeymoon phase, our first fight, and breaking up—all within the span of a month or two.The same philosophy goes for when to be intimate for the first time… It’s certainly tempting early on, but once you go down that path with someone, getting to know each other often takes a backseat to, well, the things you can do in the backseat.It takes time to get to know someone before you can properly determine if you even want to open yourself up to that kind of intimacy.Then they are advised to open up in stages as trust is built.